on a time you were scared

this was written to be read. the prompt asked to write about a time you were scared. 

I never understood why they say you’re ‘scared’ shitless’, when shitting or the sensation of shitting is all you can do or think about. It was something we had planned for weeks. And for weeks, I had done my research. I had conversed with the company via email, I had discussed the details with my friends. I had watched videos on You Tube. I knew what the process was going to entail. But for some reason, as the boat heaved up and down at a speed that made me grab my seat desperately, and land grew further and further away and the temperature grew colder and colder, the fear grew louder and louder. My heart rate increased, my bladder filled and my bowels moved. The surge of adrenaline had put me in fight or flight mode and since there was nowhere to run to, I knew I had to go through with it.

As the boat slowed down, and the roar of the engine became a light murmur, the excited chatter of the passengers grew louder and louder. Stories were shared about previous similar adventures. I pretended to be engaged, hoping my fear was well hidden behind my ray bans.

As one guide announced that we were to immediately change into the diving suits, another pulled a frozen fish head, the size of a large watermelon, out of a cooler and attached it to a pole. Changing into the gear was the worst. The suit was damp, the floor was slippery and the tide caused the boat to lurch in a manner that disoriented me. Once half the suit was on, I learned with exhausting disappointment that it was too big and began to peel off the layers. I despised that moment. I wanted to be back in the hotel room, over 100 miles away, in the heart of Cape Town, sleeping in the warmth of the king sized bed. Not out in the middle of nowhere on a boat in the midst of pushing and shoving, struggling to get a suit on, feeling as incompetent as a 3-year-old. After much struggle, I was out of the large suit and in the right sized one. My travel companions- my sister and her best friend- were already in theirs, and enjoying selfies with the blue ocean gleaming behind them.

I decided I would go first. I had to get this over with. I had enough adrenaline in me for 5 small children about to get on their first roller coaster ride. I had to get it out. My insides churned again and I clenched in fear.

“Ok we got one!” screamed one of the guides “first group in!!”

I stood up with 5 others and goggles were thrust at us. My peers quickly put them on with the efficiency of people who were used to this kind of thing, while I struggled to find the right placement for my nose. So much talking, so much excitement, so much happening at once. Including the rise of my heart beat. I couldn’t think of the future or the past. This moment was my life. And I felt like it would never end.

With support from one of the guides, I was lowered into the freezing salty water, into the cage attached to the side of the boat. We were to float in the cage with our heads above water until the guide motioned for us to dive.

Because the boat was heaving, the cage was heaving and we were heaving. I began friendly conversation with the man to my left. I usually found that admitting fear calmed my nerves but it didn’t work in this scenario. I asked him to review the diving procedure with me, to help me identify the correct bars to grab during the dive. He was gracious. And I was half attentive. I already knew what to do. I just needed to be calmed down. As we waited for the shark, which was being baited with the frozen fish head, I discovered he was also from California, and he discovered that I couldn’t swim. I always found it best in bodies of water to warn people of the handicap in case of emergency.

The trembling, the heart rate, the adrenaline.

The cage, the heaving, the ice cold water.

The chatter, the fish head, the imminent dive.

And then it happened. As quick as my next heart beat, I felt my chest and stomach tighten and my head lurch forward as I disposed into the water last night’s dinner. My eyes watered as undigested chunks of garlic nan and shai paneer gathered on the water’s surface.

“Ok, everyone, just push the pieces out of the way” I heard a voice say from the above. And the 5 other divers with support of the current moved the vomit away from them. I apologized as I used the salt water to clean my mouth and wipe my face down. My heart rate had slowed but the fear was still there.

About 4 minutes later, it arrived, and we were told to hang on to the internal bar, dive and look right. And there it was clear as the day above us, just inches from my face, a great white shark. After 2 more dives, we were extracted from the water so the next group could go in.

My heart had definitely retuned to normal. I began the impossible task of changing out of the suit praying to God that I didn’t soil myself in my moment of despair. I hadn’t. But I wouldn’t have been surprised if I did. Before we headed back for shore, I vomited twice more and in the process lost any integrity I had boarded with. Upon arriving at our hotel 4 hours later, I ran to the bathroom.

Weeks and months later I would reflect on the moment and recall how despite my fear and the endless vomiting, at least I had the restraint and decency to clench and hold it in.

on remembering i’m black

I’d like to speak for all black people and say that we don’t remember we’re black until something or someone reminds us that we are. A poorly thought out ad campaign, an offhand joke, a comment in the break room, the lack of representation at your favorite clothing store, black history month, Obama, black panther. We don’t go around thinking we’re only black. We walk around like everyone else. Normal. Then, just like that, more times than not, we’re reminded.

I actually almost forgot. Until Lafiya reminded me.

I work for an International NGO based in Washington, DC. We do development work and respond to emergencies around the world- Africa, South America, Asia- we’re there. We’re building water systems, training a young workforce of future leaders, engaging policy makers and local leaders, supporting small holder farmers, and young female entrepreneurs. Our portfolio is vast.

Now, we’re currently working on expanding our reach into West Africa by way of Niger. Niger is a sub- Saharan land-locked country that sits of north of Nigeria. The superlatives are endless. It has the youngest population in the world with over 80% of people under the age of 30. It has the highest fertility rate in the world and it is the poorest country on the continent. Nigeriens are mostly farmers and pastoralists, mostly uneducated (literacy rates are even lower in women), and mostly Muslim. It is the worst-case development scenario with many factors such as governance, religion, social norms, climate, and the influx of the terrorist group Boko Haram, intensifying already tough conditions. Because of this, we have invested a large chunk of money in understanding the context. Many of us in the last 4 months have taken several trips to Niger. I was there twice in January. I sat with people in the most remote villages and asked them what development means to them, what health care looks like in their villages and what it would take to reduce the very high malnutrition rates that claim the lives and stifle the growth of children in their communities.

We’ve begun to develop a health, livelihoods, adult literacy, agriculture and resilience strategy to implement a 5-year 50 million USD initiative. Over the last few weeks we’ve gathered all our data, looked at all the research and are in the process of designing a project that will be impactful and sustainable. This morning, the health team (which is the team I sit on) had a meeting to discuss our strategy and potential activities.

One of my colleagues thought we’d introduce a behavior change marketing brand. The idea was to use a caricature of a Muslim girl who would be incorporated into all of our programming and activities. The girl would be a representative of the “ideal” Niger girl. She would be healthy, because her mother exclusively breastfed her early in life, took her to get all her vaccinations, and went to the health center when she was sick. She would be enrolled in school, wash her hands after defecating (in a toilet), would eat a balanced meal and have a strong relationship with her parents and siblings. She wouldn’t marry before 18 and when she did, it would be to a man she chose. The idea was that this girl, who my colleague named “Lafiya” (Peace in Hausa) would be included on our print materials, would have a story line shared on weekly radio shows, and would be represented in our adult literacy activities as well. It’s a bit like how you see Elmo or Barney on everything and are immediately reminded of all the positive behaviors they try to extend. It’s actually kind of brilliant when you think about it.

So, this brilliant colleague presented the write up this morning. And this was Lafiya:

Yes, Lafiya is white, or at the very least, not black.

Oh, in case I forgot to mention, Niger isn’t one of those countries like the US, or South Africa or the UK where its citizens all look very different from one another. In case you don’t know about Niger, in case you’re wondering: Niger is a homogenous country. Nigeriens are black. Very black.

My colleagues provided feedback about the write up that accompanied the photo. Components of the write up were critiqued or praised. No one had anything to say about Lafiya’s skin.

I lost my patience. “Can we use a black girl?” I say. “She doesn’t look like she’s from Niger”.

Silence ensued.

The murmured agreement of the 5 white women on the health team followed

“I just don’t see the donor responding well to this” I said “It’s the first thing I noticed”.

The girl who developed the strategy (who has about 2 decades worth of experience in the development and relief work) spoke up, “I tried to find a black one but I couldn’t. I actually paid $10 for this image”.

My supervisor was shocked.

“Why did you pay for it?” she probed “we could have had someone on our design team draw something up.” (it seemed silly, why pay for something that was so wrong. Especially when no one asked you to do so).

Another began to google “muslim girl black” and jokingly confirmed that there were no images that would work.

“Worst case scenario, I’ll have a friend draw something up”, I said completely disgusted and at my wits end. I am the youngest on my team with the least amount of experience in this line of work. Yes, I lived and travelled in West Africa for almost 4 years before moving back to the States but some of these women responded to Haiti, to Haiyan. They worked in Afghanistan and consulted on the West Africa Ebola crises. One is married to a Peruvian and another has a baby adopted from central America. Yet not one, not a single one of the 5 women, saw immediately that the photo was not representative. They began to throw around ideas to change Lafiya. GIMP was suggested along with contacting our graphic design team. My face burned with embarrassment.

In one fell swoop, Lafiya reminded me I was black. Though, funny enough, she didn’t even have to be black to do it. But isn’t that always the case? The absence of black tends to remind you of your blackness. “Where are the black people in this movie”, you ask yourself? Why am I the only black person on this flight? I am the only black person in this Bible study group. I am the only black person in this store. At this meeting. I am the only black person eating here. Sitting here. Living here. Vacationing here. Working here.

I am the only African American in my office, and thus, the only one on this team. I am the only one who saw that a 50 million USD strategy that was intended to impact the poorest country on earth over a 5- year span was not representative of those people at all.

Lafiya me reminded that I was black.  She reminded me of my early college years when Cover Girl didn’t have my foundation color and MAC was too expensive. Of my years in the Peace Corps when I had to constantly explain the color of my skin. Of that time in Memphis working in the St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital, and being introduced by my supervisor to one of the elderly volunteers, who responded with, “this job will definitely keep her busy and off the streets”.

She reminded me. And now, I won’t forget. At least for the next couple of months. But soon after, I’ll go back to my life, to being just human. Normal. Then, I’ll be reminded again, by something equally as ignorant and by the absence of what should be, that I am different from what is.

 

 

 

 

26 months of books

the books that provided the escape, entertainment, education and wisdom I needed during my peace corps service.

1. Heaven is for Real by Todd Burpo & Lynn Vincent
2. Catching Fire by Suzzane Collins
3. The Goldfinch by Donna Tart
4. Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Adichie
5. Bossy Pants by Tina Fey
6. The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis
7. A Game of Thrones by George R.R Martin
8. Black Hills by Nora Roberts
9. Iscariot by Tosca Lee
10. The Casual Vacancy by J.K Rowling
11. Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
12. A Clash of Kings by George R.R Martin
13. Nights in Rodanthe by Nicholas Sparks
14. In the Woods by Tana French
15. Americanah by Chimamanda Adichie
16. One More Thing- stories and other stories by BJ Novak
17. The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Adichie
18. Mocking Jay by Suzanne Collins
19. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande
20. Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me? (and other concerns) by Mindy Kaling
21. Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe
22. Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
23. The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel
24. The Harbinger by Jonathan Cahn
25. The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty.
26. A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini
27. The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
28. Nantucket Nights by Elin Hilderbrand
29. Yes Please by Amy Poehler
30. Dreams From My Father by Barack Obama
31. Paper Towns by John Green
32. We Were Liars by E. Lockhart
33. The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion
34. The Lowland by Jhumpa Lahiri
35. Blink by Malcolm Gladwell
36. The Longest Ride by Nicholas Sparks
37. Blue Clay People by William Powers
38. The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafón
39. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
40. No Longer at Ease by Chinua Achebe
41. Interpreter of Maladies by Jhumpa Lahiri
42. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
43. All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
44. Dead Aid: Why Aid Is Not Working and How There is a Better Way for Africa by Dambisa Moyo
45. Me Before You by Jojo Moyes
46. Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim by David Sedaris
47. A Lineage of Grace: Five stories of unlikely women who changed eternity by Francine Rivers
48. Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates
49. The Blue Bistro by Elin Hilderbrand
50. Ghana Must Go by Taiye Selasi
51. There was a Country by Chinua Achebe

Books on my list that I never got to:

1. A Passage to India by E.M. Forster
2. The Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown
3. A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
4. The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell
5. The Heart of the Matter by Graham Greene
6. Telegraph Avenue by Michael Chabon
7. Freakonomics by Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt
8. One Nation by Ben Carson
9. Say You’re One of Them by Uwem Akpan
10. Mountains Beyond Mountains by Tracy Kidder
11. Game of Thrones Series Books 3, 4 & 5 by Geroge R.R Martin
12. And the Mountains Echoed by Khaled Hosseini
13. The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah
14. Arrow of God by Chinua Achebe

What I’m reading now: Hard Times by Charles Dickens

 

Dear Senegalese People

This letter does not reflect the opinions of Peace Corps Senegal, the US Peace Corps or the US Government

I’m sorry I haven’t written in a while. The past few months have been very busy. But as the year is coming to a close, I thought I should get this to you right away. Next year will be even busier, and I doubt I will write at all.

Thank you for a great 2015. Thank you for the tiny cups of café touba, the 346 kilos of rice, the peanut sauce, the fresh vegetables and soft baguettes. Thank you for getting us where I need to be. Even though you did this painfully, and made us cry in your garages over the course of the year, you still got us where we wanted alive. Thank you for the greetings and the kind words. Thank you for the songs and dances; for explaining and sharing your culture; for inviting us to your weddings and naming ceremonies. Thank you for the hospitality; whether or not you wanted to show it, we could not tell. Thank you for working with us, answering our many survey questions, making an effort to understand our local language. And to those of you who have stopped laughing at us, thank you. Thank you for always answering your phone when we call you. We know that it is economically advantageous to you when we call you and we do notice that you keep us on the phone longer because it’s on our dime, but thank you. Because when we need answers quick, you give them. Thank you for being a walking Rolodex, a breathing calculator, and for being able to recall conversations from months ago on demand. Thank you for welcoming us into your families. While not all situations are amicable, you have not kicked us out, beat us or hazed us. Thank you. Thank you for letting us call your children our brothers and sisters, for standing up for us, for listening to us.

We are grateful we made it through the year with you but let’s revisit some things for 2016.

To the people who work in public transportation, sometimes you’re very mean to us for reasons we don’t understand. We literally don’t understand; because we’ve probably travelled to an area of the country where the local language we speak is not spoken. Or our language skills are just subpar. Please don’t yell at us, gesture angrily at us, grab us and pull us with force. This isn’t kind. We had a meeting last night and decided we weren’t going to take this next year.

To our host families, please still give us food during Ramadan. Some of us are very shy and won’t ask for food but please remember that not everyone is a Muslim or cares to fast for a whole month. When you feed the children in the morning and afternoons, just remember to feed us too. This is one of the few times we like to be treated like children.

Speaking of which, please control your children next year. We are at a loss of what to do when we see them eating sand, walking through animal poop without their shoes on, or intensely wrestling each other. Usually when these things happen you or any other adult is nowhere in the vicinity, leaving us with the awkward choices of walking away or scolding someone’s child. Many of chose the former, not because we’re evil, but because we just don’t know what to do.

Your children need to stop walking into our rooms with announcing themselves first. It is frustrating, annoying and honestly, just scary. You do it too sometimes, which is why many of us have taken to locking ourselves in our rooms in the middle of the day. Please knock or say “Konk konk”, wait for us to positively identify you (this may take a while because even though we’ve been here for a while, we probably still don’t know your name), then wait for us to grant you access or not. We are adults; many of us are closer to 30 than 20. Please respect this (see Ramadan exception above).

In 2016, when we say we’re full, we really mean it. When we say we’re tired (literally and figuratively), we really mean it. When we demand you lower the price, we really mean it (don’t just laugh at us). When we say we’re going to the regional house/office to work, we really mean it (well, most of us do). When we say we don’t have money, we really mean it.

To the people who cheat us out of what is rightfully ours, give us an attitude in restaurants, mess up our orders, destroy our fabric, steal our money or belongings; to those children who throw rocks at us, the women who raise their voices at us and the men who grab us; to the people who show up to our meetings late, pledge your support in front of our bosses but forget about us as soon as the PC car turns the corner; to the people who laugh at us, treat us differently because we look different or not as you expect us to look, treat us unjustly because we are women, or expect too much from us because we are men; to the people who make us cry or use choice words; to those of you who lie to us, mock us and tell us we don’t know anything; to those of you who have made work and life so difficult for us when you had everything in your power to make it bearable; we had a meeting last night, and decided we’re done.

In 2016, we are going to do the work you asked us to do in peace. Any attempt to belittle or disrespect us will be met with just as much ferocity.

I know I may sound angry but trust me, I am not. We are humbled that you have invited us into your communities and into your families. We made it through this year and we look forward to an even better one.

So, I’m sorry I haven’t written in a while. The past few months have been very busy. But as the year is coming to a close, I thought I should get this to you right away. Next year will be even busier, and I doubt I will write at all.

Taiwo

things forgotten.

A witty first person account of a 2 week trip to Morocco. A short story of the people who inspired us, the rich food and culture, the heartaches of international travel and the memories that will last forever.

Day 14: As soon as I felt the Senegalese man’s aggressive tap on my shoulder and saw him angrily gesturing’ indicating that I should turn off my cell phone before departure, I knew it was time to write about my experiences in Morocco. Writing this down will allow me to remember the experiences more vividly and will serve as a great source of encouragement and an oasis when I return to the reality that is my Peace Corps service in Senegal.

I’ve flown countless times. I know the rules. So I know that recent policies only require that the phone be in airplane mode and not necessarily completely switched off. I know this because I fly a lot and I also know this because the flight attendant had just made this point. So the Senegalese man was wrong, and I was right. As I looked at his angry face and his hand gestures I was reminded of some things I do not particularly enjoy about some Senegalese: the man’s need to always tell women what to do or always assume that they’re right and the inexplicable need to violate personal space.  Why did he touch me? And why did he deem it necessary to tell a complete stranger what to do? If I were a man would he have done the same thing? Or even better, if I was a Caucasian or non-black individual would he have dared? Yes, I know not everything is a race issue but when you’ve been a black American in Senegal for over a year, you begin to notice that many things are. I gave him a stare and said “Excuse me?” in English. He responded in French again-I needed to turn off my phone. I looked away from him, turned up my music and began to take mental notes. This is how I spent 2 weeks in Morocco:

May 11^th : Red eye flight from Dakar to Madrid where a 7 hour layover awaited us before a 2 hour flight into Marrakech on the 12^th.

May 12^th : After claiming luggage and changing dollars to dirahms, I engaged in a Bus vs. Taxi debate with my friend. I wanted to take the taxi to our hostel. After a 2 hour incident in Dakar a few months prior, I had decided that I only get along with Western bus systems in countries where English is widely spoken.

I lost the debate.

We hauled our things onto the bus, which dropped us off at Jemma El Fnaa Square. After a frustrating process we located our hostel in the Medina. We met up with a colleague who happened to be in country at the same time then we all went to KFC. That night I went to the square where I had my first Moroccan orange juice, bought a Moroccan outfit, and was painted with henna which I was completely ripped off for. Sleep never felt so good.

Day 1: During the complementary breakfast provided by our hostel, we met Lucy from Germany and Baris from Turkey. After everyone exchanged “What Are You Doing Here?” stories, Baris and I went on to plan the day’s activities on his TV-sized Samsung phone. We decided that visits to Jardin Majorelle and Ben Youssef Madrasa were in order. Everyone nodded in agreement. Until that point, we were all winging it. Both locations were both educational and visually stimulating. One can only imagine the amount of detail, the hours and the dedication that goes into erecting a single wall at the madrasa. We walked past a small restaurant where we decided to have lunch. As the waiter showed us our seats, I stepped on the tail of a sleeping cat, which scratched me in return. Both involved parties screamed so loudly that the Asian pair a few seats away gasped. I began to apologize. Why am I apologizing for getting scratched? Why does no one else find it odd that a cat is sleeping in a restaurant?? After lunch we got lost in the souks (literally lost in the souks) then we made our way to the hostel. Back at the hostel, Lucy smoked and I swam (ok, I clung to the sides of the pool because I can’t swim). We exchanged stories of ex boyfriends. (ok, she did and I listened. I have none). Her ex boyfriend was Nigerian- this was something she thought I should know.

That night we all met up for dinner. I wore my new Moroccan outfit but I guess I could have worn jeans and a t-shirt and still been fine. The restaurant was beautiful. It was all candlelit. Unfortunately I was with a very indecisive group. They decided they wanted to sit on the bottom floor, then the middle floor then the rooftop. We had sat at a table on the rooftop when they decided it was too hot. We worked our way down to the bottom floor again. I mumbled. This was not fun. As other patrons stared we picked a table in the roofless courtyard right beneath an orange tree. It was perfect. I ordered an overpriced delicious lasagna and while my colleague explained Peace Corps to Lucy (who was smoking again), I pulled out my normal sized IPhone and began to plan the trip to Tanger the following day.

Day 2: I decided I was a travel beast. The night before, I had stayed up a bit later to map out the entire trip. While the encounters with Lucy and Baris were very pleasant, I refused to spend the rest of the trip winging things at breakfast. If we are to do this and do it well, we must have a plan. A plan I kept in a very small Moleskin that had been dedicated solely to this trip. As we checked out of the hostel, we made reservations for our return to Marrakech. At the train station we bought one way first class tickets for a 10 hour bus ride to Tanger. Before I boarded the train, I bought 2 croissants to address my pastry addiction. My friend bought milk to address her lactose addiction. Off we go. Morocco is beautiful. After a 1 hour layover in Casablanca, where I looked for an outlet to charge my phone (this behavior will become frequent during this trip), we boarded again and arrived in Tanger at about 7pm. We picked the most generous looking, least desperate taxi driver and made our way to the Medina. Once again, the hostel was a bit difficult to find but once we did, we were welcomed by a Very French Woman who warned us sternly not to bring men into the hostel. (Uhmm ok?). After her long “I Will Make Your Breakfast But Not Your Coffee Speech”, we showered and made our way into the city in search for street food. Tanger is not a tourist’s city. This was a relief after the first 2 nights of touristy Marrakech. As we walked, we saw a group of 3 black men. (Great…). My colleague thought it would be fun to engage them. I did not share this perspective. She proceeded to do so, and immediately we discovered that they were Senegalese (surprise surprise). [I realize that this post must sound very anti-Senegalese but you must understand: I have been eating, breathing and living Senegal for 15 months! This is why you take vacation!! So you can meet Lucys who will blow cigarette smoke in your face or Baris’ who will let you take selfies on their giant phones! Not so you can re-immerse yourself into the life you just came from.] By the end of the 10-minute walk-talk, they had insulted us both. As anticipated, they had told me I don’t understand Wolof well and they had made some un-thoughtful comment about my friend’s physical appearance. They told us to call them so we could all hang out before we left Tanger. I pretended I was saving their numbers in my phone. As they walked away, I noticed an ice cream truck and we bought a couple scoops each. We walked back to the hostel. I was mistaken about day one… sleep had never felt this good.

Day 3: Early Devotions on the rooftop where I could see Spain. The sunrise was beautiful. Soon enough, my colleague found me and demanded I take pictures of her (this behavior will continue throughout the trip). I did. I anticipated acting in the same manner later on and supposed a positive a response to this request will ensure I get my picture taken later too. I finished up with my devotions and waited for Very French Woman to set out breakfast. According to my Moleskin, today was the day we go to Chefchaouen. Located 3 hours away from Tanger, the Blue City promises a nice escape from the fast paced life of the city. Unfortunately, we were only able to spend about 2 and half hours there before we had to work our way back to Tanger. By sunset we had returned to Tanger. We explored the city a bit, including a pitiful mall then went to McDonalds for dinner. (I am yet to have a Moroccan lunch or dinner at this point. At lunch this day, I ordered an amazing sausage pizza and at the cat-assaulting restaurant, I had ordered a Tuna sandwich). Over dinner, I decided that it may be best to part ways for our last scheduled day in Tanger. We can regroup for dinner and exchange stories.

Back at the hostel we discovered Christina (can’t remember her real name) in our room. She is originally from Korea but lives in London. I told her I liked her British accent and she told me she could do an “Aussie-one”, as well. I laughed but I was secretly appalled. I admire the originality that comes with an accent and was immediately shocked to learn that she was forcing it. Force it to get out of an awkward situation, to be better understood or to tell a joke, don’t force it through life!!! I decided that it must be rough speaking a certain way all the time and decided to feel sympathy for Christina. We exchanged, “What Are You Doing Here?”, stories then I checked my email and What’s App messages then went to bed. At about 3am, individuals in the next building over began to argue very loudly in Arabic. Very loudly. Glass broke. I concluded that it would not be wise to piss off a local.

Day 4: After breakfast with Christina on the roof, we parted ways as scheduled. I walked through the downtown and medina areas and did a little bit of shopping. I bought some street food for lunch (an English muffin stuffed with seasoned chicken. Really good) and returned to the hostel where I discovered Bryan. He asked me a lot of questions about the hostel and the Very French Woman who had apparently called him “stupid”, I responded tiredly then took a nap. I woke up later to discover another one! Her name was Olivia. Why is Very French Woman putting us all in one room?! Luckily, Christina had left that morning so it was less as crowded as it could have been. I soon found out that Bryan was from New York and Morocco was his second stop on a very long vacation. He had come from Spain and was going to Turkey and Israel after. Olivia was also an American. An exchange student from a university in the States (can’t remember where), she had just completed a 4 month program in Morocco. She spoke Arabic pretty well and I was very impressed. She told me that Very French Woman had said, “she didn’t know anything”. I decided to invite them to our scheduled dinner. They agreed. Up until that point, they were winging it. That morning I had looked up a restaurant called “Restaurant Kasbah” on Trip Advisor. Critics were saying the owner had the best pastillas in the country. And he was here! Right in Tanger! I decided it would be a mistake not to go. That afternoon, before my encounter with Bryan, I had asked a kid to show me exactly where the restaurant was so we wouldn’t get lost later.

We still got lost.

As I navigated us through the medina, I became increasingly embarrassed. “I know it’s here!”, I would shout over my shoulder to the following group, “I was here earlier!”, I would reassure them. And finally, “I’m sorry!”, again with the very American, very unnecessary apologizing. Bryan insisted several times that it was ok and he hadn’t got a chance to walk around anyways. He said he wasn’t super hungry but earlier, I had overheard him tell Olivia that he could eat so his attempts reassure me, only embarrassed me the more. Embarrassment grew to impatience when we discovered that many eating-places were called “Kasbah” or had some element of “kasbah” in their names. I continually rechecked Trip Advisor (thank God for 3G) to make sure I was right. The sun was setting and the streets were getting packed. The 3 followed me blindly. Blind leading the blind. I refused to consider eating elsewhere. I did not want to entertain the thought and luckily no one else suggested it. I had a plan, it was written in the Moleskin and it had to be followed. How could we possibly miss out on the best pastillas in the country??!!! I swallowed my pride and asked a friendly looking man for directions. He happened to be black. He said he would take us there. I know from my experience in Senegal that this is not a good idea. More than always, they take you to the wrong place and both parties are frustrated by the end of it. I assumed correctly. As we walked there I continually asked him if he knew where we were going. He said yes. He walked very slowly and seemed more interested in collecting our background information. I told him we were all American. My colleague immediately asked him if he spoke Pular (a Senegalese language) and he said he was not from Senegal. She continued to engage him while I engaged Trip Advisor. Bryan and Olivia were very patient. He took us through several neighborhoods and the entire time I was thinking and saying, “No, no, no, no. This is not it”. I became frustrated with my own memory. I was literally at this place a few hours earlier! He finally stopped at a restaurant with “Kasbah” in the name. As expected, it was not the place. He gave a half hearted ‘good bye’ and ‘good luck’ and continued in the opposite direction. He will probably never help a group of tourists again. Feeling bad was secondary. The primary goal was to find this place before someone suggested we eat elsewhere. When I decide I’m doing something, I am a force to be reckoned with. I finally recognized a few landmarks and guided our group to the restaurant successfully. The owner met us at the door and took us to a table on the rooftop. We all ordered a full Moroccan meal (finally!)which consisted of a pre course of soup, bread and olives, a serving of pastilla (yes!), and a main course of chicken tangine. Afterwards, we were given tea and sweets. He was graceful enough to explain each dish and the culture behind it. It was grand. The personal attention we each received and the atmosphere all contributed to the successful eating experience. On the way out, he gave us each a bear hug. I didn’t realize how much I needed a hug until then.

Day 5: Moleskin told us we were going to Fes. We woke up at about 7am. Olivia had already left. She was catching a 5am ferry to Spain. I didn’t even hear her leave. My colleague, Bryan and I decided we would all go to the train station together. We said goodbye to Very French woman and paid her our balances. Bryan was headed to Marrakech. We learned the previous night that this was his first time leaving the country (America). He is the assistant of some scriptwriter in New York and needed to “get away”. This was why he had so many questions. He had many concerns about travel, food and safety. At the train station, we all bought our tickets. Our train was leaving first. I exchanged What’s App and email information with him. As I wrote in my Moleskin, I assured him we would contact him once we were back in Marrakech in a few days. I gave him the TIME and People Magazine I no longer had use for and bid him good luck. I spent the first hour of the 5 hour ride to Fez, securing a hostel on my IPhone. It was easy. I gave the information to my colleague and told her to the same. I ate my pastries, read a book and napped. I woke up in Fes. Moleskin had us here for one full day only and I knew what I wanted to do: buy leather. Several taxis were posted in front of the train station. We began to negotiate prices to the Blue Gate with a driver. He seemed very reluctant to accept our price. Another walked up and said he would talk us at the lowered price. They immediately began to argue with one another in Arabic. We began to walk away. I don’t think either of them noticed. This clearly was not about the customer. We found another driver who took us to the Blue Gate. Upon our arrival, we located our hostel with little effort. Here, tea (at all hours) and breakfast were complementary. Winning. When we checked in, we found out we wouldn’t be given keys. No keys for the front door and none for our rooms. (What?). When I said we would need a key just in case we were out late, the staff member then suggested that we not be out past 11pm. (Curfew? ) Interesting. When my colleague asked for a receipt for the 2 nights stay he said, “I am your receipt”. I reminded myself that though many things have seemed sketchy in this country, they have turned out not to be, and continued to our assigned room. We dropped off our things then went to a restaurant in the heart of the medina. Still on our Pastilla-high, we ordered pastillas and Sprite for lunch. While we waited for our meal, I charged my phone in the kitchen. When we returned to our hostel, we discovered Abdul (can’t remember his real name), an Iranian Mathematics Ph.D candidate at Oxford University. His British accent was original. Abdul was very talkative. I didn’t really appreciate this. I was tired. He told us all he had done in Fes so far then when we told him we were planning on seeing the largest leather tannery in Africa, he advised us not too. He said he was “there today and they’re shut down for maintenance”. My colleague and I exchanged disappointed looks. Abdul then took the time (too much time) to show me pictures from the 70 countries he had travelled to in the past. Once again, I was impressed but very tired. After Abdul removed his laptop from my pillow, I went to bed.

Day 6: As I dressed that morning I realized that I had left my sandals in Tanger. Damn it! This will be the first of several things I will forget on this trip. Very French woman was probably discovering them at this moment and calling me , “stupid”. Breakfast was epic: breads, olives, jams, orange juice and tea and chocolate pudding, which my colleague devoured like a child. We went to look for new sandals for me. Then she suggested that we shouldn’t listen to Abdul and just go to the tannery. She was right! It was open! Very open. I immediately felt superior to Abdul and his 70 countries. The tannery was amazing. I will forever appreciate the way Moroccans take the time to execute little steps to arrive at a larger, beautiful result. This work ethic is absent in many communities in Senegal. We were given an unofficial tour guide who we burdened with cameras and questions. Afterwards, my colleague went shopping and I went to Western Union. She returned to the hostel while I remained in the medina area for the next 30 minutes, insanely lost. This was the kind of lost that could bring an adult to tears. She later e-mailed me about lunch and I told her to go ahead, I was still trying to get out of the medina. I must have walked past every stall twice. It was getting very hot and I felt like I was looking more and more and more like a tourist: hands clutching purse tightly, eyebrows raised, eyes widened. I asked in English and I asked in French. Every set of directions I was given failed me. Memories of getting lost in Disneyland as a child began to surface. Hunger kicked in. When I finally found my way out of the medina, I bought a croissant and orange juice at the first restaurant I saw and ate it on the cab ride home. At the hostel I charged my phone and met Andy and Sarah (can’t remember their names, and in hindsight, I don’t think we ever exchanged names). Andy was “in business” and Sarah was an occupational therapist. Both were from New Zealand but were on work visas in London. They had both quit their jobs and were traveling for 4 months. Morocco was their first stop; they were going to Spain after. Sarah explained to me that she had done this in the past- quit her job and travelled for 6 months. I’m sure I had my mouth open. She then asked me to explain Peace Corps. I shrugged and gave her a summary. She was fascinated. I didn’t understand why. Sarah quits her jobs and travels for months at a time, nothing should amaze her. Later that evening, I went out to the medina and bought a leather duffle. I returned to the hostel, exchanged stories with my colleague who now had henna all over her right hand, drank some tea, consulted with the Moleskin then went to bed. Tomorrow we leave for Rabat.

Day 7: I checked then double-checked my sleeping space before we headed to the train station for Rabat. I had bought a new wallet in Fes so there was no need to take the old one. I switched out all the contents and left the old one for the cleaning crew. The train ride to Rabat would take about 3 hours. Because we left Fez at 8:30am, we would have the rest of the day in Rabat. Moleskin shows me that we have only one day in Rabat. The previous day, I had written out the Rabat options in the Moleskin. I shared them with my colleague on the train while I ate my croissants and she drank her milk. There is a beach we can visit and a mall; there are also several lounges for later. She suggested we do both the beach and the mall. I was nervous about time and distance between these two locations. But she was right about the tannery so I decided to trust her. Arriving in Rabat, we had nowhere to stay. This was not my fault. I had checked while we were in Fes, and all the hostels were completely booked up. I was prepared to sleep in the train station, which looked more comfortable than where I actually sleep in Senegal. We asked the taxi driver to take us to a hostel I had found online the previous night. Maybe their website will be inconsistent with the reality of their situation. It was consistent. No beds. But the staff referred us to a hotel nearby. We arrived at the hotel and found it to be cheaper than any other overnight option we had used in country thus far. It was also way sketchier. We had to pay extra to shower. We went to the mall first then the beach. Both experiences were amazing. I made my colleague take several pictures of me. This was when I decided to swipe my EcoBank card hoping that my June paycheck had kicked in. It had. This will begin the series of events that will lead to me spending 80% of my June paycheck in 5 days (in May…). We were making great time so we decided to go to a grocery store to buy some items I had been asked by friends to bring back to Senegal. This was a mistake. I spent way too much money buying things like shaving cream, facial masks and specialized oils, which were difficult or impossible to find in Senegal. I then bought a 4 pack of croissants to eat on the next day’s train ride and a lot of peaches. We went to Pizza Hut (an actual restaurant!) and had dinner. Over dinner, my colleague, who is quick to experience buyer’s remorse, began to justify all her purchases. Once we arrived at our hotel we paid for our showers then got ready to go out. I began charging my phone again. I wore a very nice black jumpsuit my sister had sent me in the mail a week prior to the trip. I also carried an ALDO bag, which I had bought in Dakar a few months back and had become my “going out bag”. I had bought it on sale at still a very high price and was very pleased with its aesthetics and usability. In the bag were 5 items: my passport, my iPhone, the Moleskin, a pen, and a new pack of gum. I had looked up 2 lounges on the train ride: 555 and Amnésia. The websites and reviewers told me that Americans frequented these spots and the music was very diverse. At 11pm, we headed out for Amnésia. As soon as we arrived, we were informed by the bouncers that the lounge would not open till midnight. What a waste of time. These are the kinds of things I try to avoid in my life. The website said 11pm! I silently cursed the anonymous reviewer. My colleague got into an altercation with one of the bouncers in Spanish. She said she wanted to leave. Right now. She did not want to wait. I said ok. We left. At the corner we jumped into another cab and headed for 555. At least we had options and dressing up wouldn’t be in vain. At 555, we were greeted with an empty lounge. We were told to wait in the adjoining restaurant. The lounge would pick up later. Later?? It’s almost midnight!!! In all fairness, I should mention that this was a Tuesday night. Live music was playing from the restaurant. And it was actually pretty nice. The band was very talented. We both had some Heinekens and enjoyed the band. I was lost in my thoughts and the music when Marty (can’t remember his real name) joined us at our booth. Marty had heard us speaking English and was excited to finally meet Americans. Too excited. He told us he grew up in Rabat but he was a nurse who had studied in Boston. He asked us if we had been there. I told him yes but for some reason, he didn’t believe me. I don’t know why I cared but I did. I told him I was there for a conference 2 years ago. His eyes glazed over. Then I told him my uncle lectured at Harvard; he believed me more after this. He went on to show us pictures of the city and his cat on his phone. This, I did not care about. He then collected our Facebook names and said he would add us. We moved on to the lounge-which was still empty! But the DJ had arrived. So we danced. I gave him 2.5 stars. The clock was inching towards 2:30am, we decided it would be wise to leave. Our train leaves at 8:00am. The hotel was locked when we got back. Weird. We knocked and the owner angrily opened up. Upstairs, I took out my phone to charge it and put my passport in my suitcase. I set my alarm and collapsed on top of the sketchy blanket. 

Day 8: Four hours later, I woke up, brushed my teeth and packed my bags. Sleepy eyed, we hauled our bags downstairs and headed for the train station. As the train began to pull out of the station for Marrakech we reflected on how “crazy” the last 24 hours were and how tired we were. We giggled sleepily. A mother and her poorly disciplined child shared our first class compartment. He was about 5 and was refusing to eat his breakfast. He preferred to stand on the nice seats (in his shoes!) and ignore his mother. When the food cart came around she ordered a hot coffee, which he successfully spilled all over me 5 minutes later. “I saw that coming”, mumbled my sleepy colleague. I hadn’t. This made me even more upset. I fell asleep and when I woke up again, they were gone. Thank goodness. We had an hour left on the train. I reached into my bag to pull out Moleskin. I didn’t see it immediately so I lowered the bag into the light. This happens sometimes. The bag is large and lack and the Moleskin is black as well. It can be easy to miss. The initial search proved negative. The Moleskin was not there. I immediately lowered my duffle bag and began to search inside. It was not there. Neither was the ALDO bag. I lowered myself into my seat and stared out the window. Unbelievable. I quickly switched to damage control mode. I returned all my belongings and began to think about the Moleskin. What was written inside? Was there any personal information in it? What else was in the ALDO bag? Did I have my passport? (I did. Thank God). Did I remember what other plans I had made for the trip? Whose contact information had I lost? I learned a lot about my memory on this trip. I learned that I write because if I don’t, I won’t remember and once it’s written, it’s engrained in my memory. So I was able to recall everything I wrote in the Moleskin starting months ago, with websites to buy airline tickets and the packing lists I had created using guidelines from Pinterest. Names of hotels, hostels, hot spots to visit, and some contact information were written in the Moleskin. It contained detailed lists and a long introduction for this blog post, which I decided not to use the moment the Senegalese man tapped me on the plane. My SSN and PC ID number, and bank account/ debit card numbers were the most important numbers that came to mind and I would NEVER write those down- anywhere. I remembered vividly the plans for the last few days of the trip but as I went to write them down again, I realized that I didn’t even have a pen. The one pen I had on me, the one I had used this entire trip, was in the ALDO bag. The ALDO bag! I immediately remembered the day I bought it in Dakar, and all the places it had accompanied me to. I shook my head in disbelief. Now it lay forgotten in that dingy hotel where people had to pay to shower, at the mercy of the cleaning staff or the angry owner. I asked my colleague for a pen. She said she didn’t have one. I asked for pencil. She said she didn’t have one.

Anger.

The only word that could completely describe what I felt at that point. I quickly checked my passport again, my iPhone, my larger Moleskin journal and all my bankcards. I told myself that with the exception of all the lists, ideas and thoughts written in the Moleskin, everything else, including the new pack of gum, could be replaced. Once we arrived in Marrakech we went to the original hostel where we had stayed the first night of this trip. Once in our rooms, I charged my phone and decided we should both head out and complete any shopping we had left before the final part of the trip: the 3-day desert tour. We went to the downtown area where we booked full spa days upon our return from the desert. We had lunch then returned to the hostel. I had never felt this exhausted.

Day 9: I woke up at 6 am to pack for the desert tour. We were told to be ready at 7:15am. By 7:15am, I had stored my bags that were not coming on the trip and checked out of the hostel. The tour agency was not there to pick us up. Impatience and anger were rising slowly. I called the number we were given at 7:30am. I immediately began to feel played. This 3-day tour would be the most expensive thing we had bought on this trip and now it was not going to happen. I let the man on the other side of the phone have it. It wasn’t ladylike. I told him that we had been waiting since 7:15 and now it was almost 30 minutes later. I told him if we didn’t see anyone by 8 that we were going to demand our money back. Someone showed up 10 minutes later to take us to the bus. In retrospect, I don’t know why I was so angry. I don’t think it was because of the Moleskin. I had let that go already. I believe it was the burden of the responsibility of making sure the trip went as planned. In 30 minutes, we were in the van with our group, headed to the desert.

Day 10-Day 12: Our group:

• Chinese couple from London- sensational accents
• Australian couple married for 2 years
• Canadian couple- outgoing husband, shy wife
• Hollander couple- Very loud and very intelligent
• Londoner Couple- She was originally from Iraq but grew up in Dubai, his background was unclear.
• Single Chinese chick- Very quiet except when she was Skyping in Mandarin on the van.
• Sammy- Originally from Morocco (Marrakech) but currently lives in Germany
• Me- Exhausted American originally from Nigeria, currently lives in Senegal
• My colleague- Sick American originally from Mexico, currently lives in Senegal
• Abdu would be our driver, guide, and babysitter for the next 1200Km (745 miles) and 3 days. He will answer our questions half-heartedly and with in complete sentences but we still grow to love him and understand him. At the stops, I will have many “Could You Not Drive So Fast?” conversations with him that would end with him laughing at me and maintaining his previous speeds.

The 3 day excursion would take us from Marrakech to Merzouga where we would ride camels in the Sahara Desert. We stopped at several places along the way and as the miles increased, we all became more and more fond of each other, each breaking out of his shell, to share travel, work and education experiences from all over the world. About 2 hours into the drive at the first stop, I left my pretty pricey sunglasses in the little shop adjoining the café. Surprise surprise. I immediately told myself that I should prepare to come back from the excursion with half as many things as I took with me. I told the driver and he said we would pick them up on the way back. He made calls and said not to worry. Sammy immediately began to warn me that the desert would be extremely unbearable without glasses. He said he could loan me an extra pair he had bought along. “Thank you”, I responded tiredly. On the first night, still 6 hours away from the desert, we lodged at a nice hotel not too far from Ouarzazate. Over dinner, I discussed recent seasons of Homeland and House of Cards with Chinese couple from London. They also told me that they had recently watched Desperate Housewives and wanted to know if they needed to have guns on them if they visited America. I said no. We then discussed the NBA playoffs and their strong desire to see a Finals game live. After dinner I noticed that I had been bit by mosquitos in at least 50 locations on my arms, hands, neck and back. The rest of my time in morocco would be spent getting seriously bit, itching and lathering myself with repellent lotions and sprays. (These methods would not work. On the flight out of Marrakech, a few days later, I counted 15 bites on my left wrist alone. Later that night in Dakar, I discovered massive bites all over my thighs and back. My elbows were the worst. In a few cases, I had scratched so hard, the skin had come off. My host mom in Dakar said I was experiencing an allergic reaction to the bites and immediately gave me expired Benadryl. I took it. It helped). My colleague grew very very sick. Headaches, fever, cough, congestion, diarrhea, vomiting, fatigue. She had it all. Including the mosquito bites. That night, while she was doubled over on a hotel couch, the hotel owner and I discussed how he managed to begin and maintain a successful establishment several hours away from the city. He told me about how he had owned a furniture shop in New Jersey after living in New York for several years. Everyone tells the story of going back “home” to start a business; this guy actually did it and did it well. He recommended milk and honey for my friend and I went to bed. The next morning, I charged up my phone and went and found Sammy. I asked for the glasses he had promised the previous day. He said he would give it to me later. I did not like this. I was at the mercy of someone else. He talked so much about the glasses yesterday. I wished he would just give them to me. I hated this game. He gave them to me about 2 hours later. Riding in the Sahara was amazing. When we approached our camp, which was about a 90 minute camel ride away, it began to rain. (the first rain in 4 months). Then it began to hail (the first hail in 10 years). I took a moment to enjoy the omnipresent and omnipotent attributes of God. We had a chicken tangine dinner then our desert guides sang and drummed for us. At 6am the next morning we were back on the camels and headed out of the Sahara. It was a painful ride but the sunrise was beautiful. By the time we reached our van, my back, thighs and neck were killing me. As we dismounted the camels, one of the desert guides asked me to stay in the desert with him. What do I look like? I smiled and said no. He said ok, but to at least give him my ring (he was referring to a bronze ring I was wearing. I had bought it in Dakar last year and it had become an everyday wear for me). I told him no but I would leave a tip. He hugged me good-bye. In the bathroom, I took off the ring to wash my face and my hands. I would later realize back in Marrakech that night that I left it on the sink. I would pray that he found it.

Day 13: I woke up tired. But there were things to do. I got up and showered and had breakfast. Our spa session was scheduled for noon so I had about 2 hours to finish any last minute errands. I went to the Carre Eden mall where I bought the last of my gifts. On my way out of the mall area, a Cameroonian man accosted me. I was not in the mood. He immediately asked for my number (not even my name) and when I asked why, he said he wanted to get to know me. I gave him a very tired look and walked into the nearest shop. The storeowner went outside and yelled at him in Arabic. He shot me a glance then walked away. I quickly left the store before the owner could ask me to buy anything. The spa session consisted of a hammam bath, a facial, a manicure, a pedicure and a massage. It was much needed. After the camel ride it was difficult to look over my right shoulder without experiencing significant pain. They fixed my neck but my back still ached. Afterwards, we picked up Dominos for dinner and went home. That night, I went to So a very high end lounge in Gueliz. The band was phenomenal. They sang covers of everything from Pharrell’s Happy to P- Square’s Shekini. When the waiter approached me with the most fascinating drinks menu I have ever seen and I told him I was waiting for a friend. A few moments later, 2 black women walked in and he asked if those were my friends. I gave him a stare. I ordered an over priced Mojito which tasted like water then headed back to hostel at about 2am.

Day 14: Our flight to Madrid was scheduled for 1:30pm. I estimated that we needed to be walking out of our hostel at 10am. We left at 10:30am. I stopped at an orange stand to buy an orange for a friend who had sarcastically written stating I should bring him Moroccan oranges. I decided one was enough. My colleague wanted to take the bus. The original passes we had bought on our first day allowed for a round trip. I had left this pass in Fes when I switched wallets and was gladly going to take a taxi. She began walking to the bus station. I called after her and told her to get in the cab. I would pay for it. If she somehow became late because of an unforeseen complicated bus schedule, I did not want to be faced with the awkward decision of getting on the flight and leaving her in Morocco or staying in Morocco and catching a later flight. At the airport, I charged my phone then bought a bottle of Rosé at the duty free store. A friend had invited me to dinner in Dakar upon my arrival. I wanted to be prepared. This adventure was over; it was time to start planning for the next…

40 things I learned in 360 days

40 things I learned (or were reinforced) in the last 360 days- a note to new peace corps volunteers and a reminder to myself

1. There’s always a reason not to do something. All you need is one reason to do it.

2. Perseverance is key.

3. Fear is useless.

4. The masters degree is worth it.

5. How to mime to successfully get a message across.

6. Not everyone really cares that you’re American.

7. You can read 5 books in one month.

8. Two years is not enough time.

9. You can learn new languages as an adult.

10. People will live and die in the most drastic conditions not because they don’t have a choice but because the people they serve do not have the luxury of choice.

11. Treat yourself. Always.

12. A dramatic exist after an argument is effective as long as you don’t leave anything behind.

13. Global health is a very competitive field.

14. You will never be able to give yourself a satisfactory answer to the question “What am I doing with my life?”, so just don’t ask.

15. Just because you’re old doesn’t give you the right.

16. Always come bearing gifts for the people who take care of you.

17. It never hurts to be creative.

18. Not everyone lives with purpose and not everyone cares to.

19. When development work works, it works.

20. People will stare at you. Stare back. You will almost always win.

21. Mice eat everything- hair products, batteries, gum, books etc.

22. Never trust an overeager hair dresser.

23. Never trust an overeager tailor.

24. Never trust an overeager taxi driver (especially in Dakar).

25. You can watch an entire series of a show in 2 months (this, however, should not be your prerogative).

26. Crying is not an acceptable response.

27. It is possible to eat the same thing over and over again and be ok.

28. Serving people is easy, loving them is the real challenge.

29. Always travel with Ciprofloxacin.

30. If you don’t want it discovered burn it or throw it down the toilet.

31. Some children deserve to be severely punished for their actions.

32. Some adults deserve to be severely punished for their actions.

33. Community health workers may just be the solution to all our pressing health issues.

34. Ramadan is not fun.

35. Plan plan plan.

36. Podcasts are our friends.

37. Lower all expectations and bask in the small wins.

38. Start with what they know.

39. Number your days.

40. All things work for the good of those who love God (romans 8:28).

This is Nigeria

It is not tame.

It can not be tamed and it refuses to be.

The day has no start time because it blends in with the night before. It has to be this way. If you’re going to make the first sale, buy the softest bread or the freshest akara, avoid the roundabout traffic, not stand in line at the hospital- there’s no such thing as sleeping in. And if you do, the children at the nearby primary school will wake you up with their morning assembly hymns, their recited prayers and/or their happy birthday songs. Songs you’re bound to hear at least once a week, reminding you of the overpopulation characteristic of the country that has gained the attention of people around the world. The country is packed. Hospitals, work places, streets and schools burst with the overwhelming amount of people. You’re always in line for something- at a bookstore, at the MTN office, at the gas station, at the bank, at the booth in the market where young boys put in your fake eyelashes and glue on your nails. Too many people. Too many lines.
So people watching while you’re doing your hair in a salon or sitting in the window seat in a taxi, is never a bore. And if you were to look out, what would you see? The men who sit on the sidewalk between the market and the street, mending shoes with a glue so powerful, they guarantee you won’t come back. You’ll see young boys with jewelry pieces, summoning women to a booth further in the market. You’ll see a line of shops. The clothing shop. The fabric shop. The shoe shop. The perfume shop.  The electronic shop and the ‘provisions’ shop. And while the products are similar, each shop maintains it’s uniqueness through the personality of it’s owner. The seller is usually very hands on and aggressive. Why wouldn’t he be? Most of the time his rent, his next meal or his child’s education could depend on the next sale.

Rich or poor, everyone is looking to win in Nigeria. Many locals, almost all, will tell you that it’s the politicians who are winning. That is where the money, the influence and power lie- in politics. So it’s very unusual to meet a Nigerian who doesn’t know the names of his local, state and national leaders. They know them, their beginnings, where they went to school, how many kids they have, what European country they spent the weekend in, how they rose to power, and for some, how they fell. Because knowledge is power. But Nigeria seems to be one country where this power does not keep the leaders honest and accountable.

But still there’s hope. Hope for many that is found in the faith. Christianity is big in Nigeria. Your church can almost define you. The biggies are Redeemed and Winners chapel, boasting centers and parishes around the world. The churches are present on every block and just as present are the food options.Not just the colorful large chains like tantalizers, Mr. Biggs or Chicken Republic but the street food stands as well. The corn lady, the plantain woman, the old Fan Milk guy, the akara girl or the beans and stew man. Names are unknown but dishes remain known to those who rush to grab a quick breakfast or late afternoon snack. Food here is important. The diversity of food options, the creativity of individuals and the influence of the western market have all contributed to the birth and proliferation of the food industry in Nigeria. Still, never under estimate the power of coconut and salt, gari and sugar, bananas and groundnuts, puff puff and chin chin, kuli kuli, plantain chips, or even pure sugar canes. Nigeria does food.

And a lot of other things.

Randomly select 10 women on the street. None of them will have the same hairstyle. Whether you decide to fix, set, braid, or cut it all off. Wear it natural, relax it, dread it, dye it, or weave it, it can be done in Nigeria and it will be done well. While your head is under the dryer someone will come to sell you a cold La Casera or rice and stew. Sometimes eko and ogbona soup or éfo.

Fashion is a thing too. Ready made, made to fit, western, western made to fit with traditional fabric. Tailors are numerous but the experts are few. People crave something original. How can they make something yet to be considered by their friends. How can they combine colors and prints to create that which is unique and coveted? And after making 2 distinct outfits, the laywoman becomes a self-proclaimed ‘designer’.

There’s always somewhere to go in Nigeria. Someone is always celebrating something. Always. It’s not just the rich either, it’s a middle class and lower class practice too. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. So many small businesses are centered around party prep. Establishments that specialize in making beads for special occasions, those that will decorate your hall, plan your wedding, cook all meals for a week long event, buy and slaughter any animal for your main dish, provide the ‘minerals’, take the pictures, make your party favors with your face clearly and unambiguously printed on a bag, hand fan or t-shirt. Many, no, many, of these companies exist each vowing that they do it better and more efficiently than the other guy.

Nigeria. It needs a lot of work. Religion, politics, money and tribalism have all morphed into an indistinguishable sphere of devastation and poverty, rolling at the average man at 80 miles per hour.

But on the everyday streets of everyday people, everyday life continues. It continues with the hope that tomorrow brings something better. But for now, we get up early, buy our hot acara, go to work at a job in which we are probably owed a salary, attend our friend’s wedding on Saturday in new clothes and our church services on Sunday in even newer clothes. We dance to Davido, and reflect on the lyrics of Fela and Sunny Ade . We read Adichie and quote Achebe. We watch Nollywood, intensely describing and debating hidden themes and messages. We talk about who was rude and who is spoiled; who acted illiterate, and what was nonsense or rubbish. We pay the high gas prices, bargain aggressively with market ladies, and slip 50 Naira notes to highway patrol.

We look out to the world to enrich our culture, fully and proudly aware, that the rest of the world looks at ours to enrich theirs.

This is life.

This is Nigeria.

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Questions and comments I’ve addressed since telling people I am joining the Peace Corps

So for about a year and a half  now I have known that I was going to join the Peace Corps. Since then, especially recently with less than 2 weeks before I leave, I’ve had to explain to people my decision and why I will be gone for two years. The response is usually overwhelming. People get antsy and nervous, fearful and uncertain- like they’re the ones who have to leave their homes for 27 months and live in another country. So I have addressed some very interesting questions and comments. Yes, I know- they mean well and they’re concerned about my plight but some of their responses were so entertaining, I had to write them down….

1. Why does it have to 2 years, can’t you just go for 6 months? No, I can’t. The Peace Corps is a 27 month commitment that includes 3 months of training and 24 months of actual service. It is impossible to completely integrate into a community, learn a new language, conduct an assessment of their needs and develop sustainable projects in 6 months or less. Peace Corps does have a Peace Corps Response program for about 6 months but that is only available to professionals who are sent out to complete specific predetermined projects.

2. Why does it have to be Senegal, can’t you go somewhere closer like Rome? a) Rome is not closer. A direct flight from JFK to Rome, Italy is 9 hours and 5 minutes. A direct flight from JFK to Dakar, Senegal is 8 hours and 3 minutes.  b) Italy is a high income country and does not require the type of services Peace Corps offers therefore, Peace Corps does not work in Rome or any of Italy’s cities. c) Peace Corps will post you where they need you to serve

 3. Isn’t Burkina Faso the capital of Senegal? No, Dakar is. Burkina Faso is another country east of Senegal

 4. Will you come back home a couple of times to visit? No. Peace Corps is a job. I can not jump on a plane every few months. Also, Peace Corps does not pay for vacation.

 5. Wow. That requires a lot of physical strength and training. But you seem fit so I know you’ll be fine. Slow down. Peace Corps is not a branch of the military.

6. Wow, you’re going to be super skinny when you come back. Probably. But some volunteers actually gain weight in the field.

7. So, when will you get married? I don’t know. But I can tell you that joining the Peace Corps is not a life of singleness sentence. Actually, a lot of Returned Peace Corps Volunteers I know are currently in loving relationships and those that are single do not attribute it to their time in service.

 8. Isn’t there a war there? No, there is not. The war is in South Sudan. I know they both start with “S” but please, try and do better. Senegal’s government is pretty stable and the Peace Corps will not work where there is strong conflict or war.

 9. Why didn’t you pick Nigeria? Because Peace Corps does not work there. They did a long time ago but had to pull their services because of the religious and political conflict in Nigeria. Besides, Peace Corps will acknowledge your preferences but will ultimately post you where you where they need you to serve.

 10. How/ What will you eat?  Food. It exists there too.

 11. How will you be in touch? Valid question but if you’re trying to ask me there are phones and internet and wifi and computers in Senegal, just ask. And I would tell you that there are.

 12. Is it like missionary work? No it is not. Peace Corps is a government organization and is not affiliated with any religious or cultural group.

 13. Why are you doing this? There has to be another group you can work for nationally. There are other groups. But my Masters is in Global Health and global implies international work. And very few (or no) agencies/ organizations will take me seriously if I don’t have international work experience. Peace Corps is not a last resort, it is my first choice.

14. You’ll be old by then time you get back. Yes, older than I am now. But I think 26 is still pretty young.

15. Aren’t you afraid? Of what?

For a better understanding of what the Peace Corps is and how to join or get involved please visit peacecorps.org.

Is there not a cause?- Why I decided to join the Peace Corps

The 17th chapter of the first book of Samuel tells the story of a young man named David who finds the courage to defend his nation and people against the infamous Goliath. The chapter gives an account of the events leading up to the boy’s account with the giant and the battle itself.

When David showed up with the supplies he was asked to deliver to the warriors, he found the Israelites shaking in fear and asked them what was up. They explained how the King had promised personal, financial and professional gain to the man who kills Goliath. But these did not interest David, he was more concerned about protecting his nation and his people- God’s people. So he responded “Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?”. In other words, who does Goliath think he is? When David is questioned about his presence at the scene at all he responds, “Is there not a cause?”.

David looked around him and saw turmoil and he saw a reason to stand up and do something that the others spent time talking about. You know the story. He fought, and with the help of God and little resources (a staff and 5 stones), delivered Israel from their enemy.

About 6 months ago I found out I will be going to Senegal, West Africa to serve in the Peace Corps as part of the Masters International (MI) Program. The MI program allows Masters students across the nation to incorporate the Peace Corps experience into their degree, giving them an opportunity to practice the skills they have learned in the classroom setting. So as a Global Health major in the Masters of Public Health program at my school, I will be working as a Preventative Health Educator in Senegal for two years. This two year experience will give me the tools I need to launch a career in global health and will bring me face to face with the needs of people in a low income country. I expect that this journey will change me personally and professionally.

I find it very difficult to explain why I chose a career in Global Health and why I am joining the Peace Corps. I find it hard to explain why I care about poverty, disease, development and disaster. I can’t easily put into words why the Haves should help the Have Nots. And it is difficult for me to describe why the survival of the world’s most exploited and impoverished individuals is inexplicably and intrinsically connected to mine. I am not self righteous neither am I superior nor pious. There are clearly problems in the world we live in and there are also clear solutions.

So like David, I answer “Is there not a cause?”

 

Anyone else doing something similar? Peace Corps, AmeriCorps, Teach for America or any other aid/ development related work or service? Please share why you do what you do and be sure to follow my Peace Corps story here.

The Bucket List

I used to be a fan of the New Year’s resolutions. Sometime between 5 and 11pm on the last day of every year, I would find a way to quickly jot down some the things I wanted to achieve the upcoming year. These lists were usually long and covered successes related to academics, social and personal life and finances. Over the first few days of the year, I would diligently study the list and by the end of the first month I would tuck it away somewhere safe: a small box in the drawer of my night stand, a file saved on a USB cord or an email sent to myself. Unforeseen events through the year caused dreams to shift and goals to be rewritten. So in a desperate act of psychological freedom, I ignored the list for the remainder of the year.

This year I am free from the resolutions. Not because I don’t expect anything for the year, but because I expect much more for my life. So this year and those left are about The Bucket List. Never written before, the Bucket List are the moments and milestones I hope to accomplish in my lifetime. While there are several things I want to do before I get called home, these are the top 45 that come to mind right now.

It is my only hope that the list continues to grow and the adventures remain endless.

1. Serve in the Peace Corps
2. Teach someone how to speak English
3. Master the French language
4. Learn the choreography from Beyonce’s ‘Single Ladies’
5. Read Moby Dick
6. Learn how to swim
7. Run a 10K
8. Run a half marathon
9. Visit all the continents- South America, Australia and Antarctica left
10. Visit Times Square on New Years Eve
11. Attend a World Cup Soccer game
12. Make meaningful change in the world
13. Write a novel
14. Buy a coupe
15. Complete the Tough Mudder
16. Do a color run
17. Get a tattoo
18. Ride a camel in Egypt
19. Pray in Israel
20. Take a picture for everyday of that year
21. Get employed by an organization that does meaningful work
22. Employ someone to do meaningful work
23. Give blood
24. Hike the Half Dome at Yosemite
25. See Mount Kilimanjaro
26. Eat Thai food in Thailand
27. Get published
28. Present a couple more times at the American Public Health Association Annual Meeting
29. Learn to crotchet
30. Learn to braid hair
31. Learn to drive a stick shift
32. Adopt a child
33. Teach a Sunday School class
34. Read the Bible in a year
35. Take a hip hop dance class
36. Be an extra in a movie
37. See a show in Las Vegas
38. Crash a wedding
39. Join a book club
40. Go on a cruise
41. Attend a 49ers game
42. Pay a kid’s tuition for college
43. Drive across the country
44. Learn how to rollerblade
45. Marry my best friend

“For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plan to give you hope and a future”. Jeremiah 29:11